Love, Marriage and Responsibility.

Love... The most celebrated feeling...There won't be too many people who didnt jot a two or three lines, down about this wonderful feeling..this feeling gave wings to the expressions of the poets, novelists, artist, actors,and even to many bloggers..

 We know the ultimate goal of any true love is to be together forever, through the institution known as marriage.One day I was wondering about the changes of phases in a relationships and the responsibility factor.

I feel, we have to cross three phases before we finally land onto the successful 'marriage' institution through love. First one is the 'falling in love' or infatuation stage. Second one is, the stage when both started loving each other. And finally, marriage. So we can say the milestones as, initial meeting or something like that, proposal and marriage.

Infatuation stage:

According to me, this is the best of all phases. In this stage, one of the future couples- or both as in the case of love at first sight like things-starts to develop an interest towards the other person. In this phase, the one person may or may not know the other person's feeling. But there is a joy in dreaming of a boy or girl and to spend sleepless nights with his or her thoughts [ for the time being, i will use 'with her thoughts' etc., coz it is being written in a boy's perspective ;) ] Most importantly , in this phase we lack all kinds of responsibility. Thats is the very reason why I said that this is the best of all phases. By the word responsibility, I meant the general things such as meeting her by leaving all your works behind, spending time with her etc.. We need not have to bother about all these responsibilities, for the reason that we haven't yet started the relation. Everything is in our mind. 

But very interestingly we are completely, even 200% wiling to dedicate all our time for her. The more intense our feeling , the better. We will find ways to see her, will wait hours to get a glimpse and all kinds of adventures!!!


And one day, on the summit of anxiety, excitement, ecstasy etc etc.. with lots and loads of tension and increased heart beats we just express our feelings. I couldn't understand yet, why do we fear so much to speak some words, some 4 or 5 words,arranged in some special order(!) but still, somehow, it remains as a fact.


And there starts the next phase, provided the other person also accepts and re-arrange some another 5 or 6 words or less.
Love:
According to me, this is the second best phase. In this, a kind of responsibility has to be there in order to move the whole thing ahead. We need to spend quality time with her chatting some sense or non-sense, some joke or future plans etc etc depending upon the individuals and intellect. 


Our experience, theories in economics and some other theories points its finger to a fact that we gradually lose our interest in a things after achieving it. We don't have the craze towards computer,car, bike and many other things as we had earlier. Same is the case with relationships too. Strangely and interestingly, we lose the intensity of interest in our love and the so called responsibility become a sort of burden. But still we bear everything for the sake of the sacred feeling.


And to reach the next milestone, we again with lots of pain and hardships, by moving against every opposition with  a courage acquired from some unknown world, we do anything and everything and even the impossibles. And finally we achieve it. So into the final state..into marriage. Yes, here we are talking about a successful love story only.


Marriage:
So with that marriage, the love was successful. But this is the phase of real responsibility. In this phase we are stepping down to reality from a dream world known as Love. And when we starts to experience the reality, the very thing that lead them to this state starts to vanish from life. The element of love is no where to seen except in a few occasions. And our increased responsibility again make the going rough. The 'so far' hidden negative sides of personalities starts to show their color from both sides. 


And some day, when looking back, we search hard to find where they lost their precious love. When it is hard to find, we think about the past days and think "For this, everything happened??"


But this is one side of one story. There is another side for this story in some other story. And there are so many other stories. So whats your story. What ever may be the story, don't let the LOVE die in our lives. Its really a great feeling. It has to be experienced. 


And Love to hear more from you..Expecting your comments..